Hooyah! 5 LIFE Lessons from the THAI Cave Rescue

Over history there have been numerous examples of the power of collective human compassion to lift humanity up and bring us closer together. The dramatic Thai Cave Rescue of all 12 Wild Boar soccer team members perhaps offers us the most powerful example yet.. What stands out most, I believe, is the remarkable ability of the entire group to overcome what seemed like unsurmountable odds With LIFE lessons in mind, here are some of my thoughts on what has been called “a miracle” that may provide some personal insights and inspiration for you. The CONTEXT: The mission the international team of divers and volunteers set out to accomplish was accomplished! Their personal focus became a global focus thanks to the 24/7 coverage by global news media and social media shares. Sharing live updates, the news media became a powerful force for GOOD by keeping the world focused on the same goal: Everyone safe. The most important lesson we learned is this: Stay connected! Live by the rule “one for all and all for one.” No one is safe until ALL are safe.We are all part of a larger ecology of life. Everyone and everything is connected. Like the soccer team, each of us will be tested. An old truth is still true today: “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” We are each on a hero’s journey. This is the time of our rapid transformation. Stay strong! Through our thoughts, words and actions each one of us can become the change we want to see in the world. While many news reporters are speculating on the long term mental...

Three TECH Savvy Solutions That Could Reunite Migrant Families

If you, like me, wake up every day wondering what single action you can take to help solve the problem of the 2,400 migrant children separated from their parent(s), here are three ideas I came up with that are starting to attract attention: IDEA #1: The 3-Meter Tech Solution: Lawyers in collaborate with tech smart what3words and Google Earth, could identify the specific location of each child within 3 meters and give them a wrist band with their own unique three words embossed on it. Take a photo of each child showing their three-word wrist band, then do the same with their parent(s). IDEA #2: The StartUp Village Project: If a safe return to their home country is possible –  where poverty, not violence, was the reason for leaving – migrant families could be provided with a 5-year-guaranteed income to live in a new *startup village.* This would require an agreement by the government of the country and skills training. For example, THIS location in Guatemala. The cost would be in the millions, not billions, and recognize America’s role in creating an unnecessary humanitarian crisis and PTSD and separation anxiety that could last a lifetime for these migrant families. IDEA #3: CANADA’S new immigration program. This easy to implement program could also work in America. In the U.S.  a reunited family would be released from custody await legal determination in the U.S. if they are able to secure five sponsors, using Matchmaking technology. Alexia Parks, inventor of the Gender Equality Tool and G.E.T. Smarter Together 1-Minute Learning Tool, is Founder and CEO of 10TRAITS Leadership...

Everyone has unconscious bias. Here are three ways to discover yours.

How far you rise as a leader – in today’s modern inclusive workplace – now depends upon how free of unconscious bias you are. (You can check out your unconscious bias in 1-Minute for free here.) BIAS is like a mouse-trap, where the cheese is your favorite stereotype. By stereotype, I mean the automatic reaction you have to someone who holds an opinion which differs from yours on any subject, or someone who belongs to a different political group, who comes from a different culture, minority group or “tribe.” According to Psychology Today, everyone has unconscious bias. The unsettling truth the magazine reports is that “We have met the enemy of equality and the enemy is us.” Even people who makes friends easily or who are on a fast-track to the C-Suite use stereotypes to instantly categorize (stereotype) what other people think, say, or do. If you’re interested in discovering what your personal bias is, and willing to let it go, then check out these three easy techniques: Journaling. Create an imaginary dialogue with a person who may “trigger” a reaction from you. Start writing in your journal with a simple question such as: “I’m curious why you to (this)” or “I’ve been told (this) what do you think?” Then begin writing the response you imagine they would give. Continue the dialogue until you discover the unconscious bias and resolve to release it. Catch and Release: Make a decision to stay fully present and mindful in the presence of someone you’re talking to who thinks or acts differently than you Ask for their opinion, then listen deeply to their response....
Startup Leadership: What Question Would You Like People to Ask You?

Startup Leadership: What Question Would You Like People to Ask You?

I just signed up to attend my favorite event of the year: BoulderStartUpWeek. This week-long event is about to start and all available hotel and airbnb space in town is filling up. Hosted in dozens of venues downtown including many co-working spaces and supported by hundreds of volunteers, it feels more like a community potluck for the mind than an event. People who show up at this annual feast of free events includes everybody who has an interest in all things startup. Their curiosity drives them to take time off to take a look at the future of (almost) every field of endeavor that the human mind can imagine. If you, like me, are lucky enough to learn about the event before the more than 50 “high octane” talks a day by seasoned entrepreneurs fill up, you can get first pick of the panels that interest you most. And even if they’re marked “filled” chances are, you can still get in. Once inside an event, you’ll be certain to be asked The Question at least once. But first you have to fill out your profile. Most of the details requested in the profile are easy to fill out and none push the privacy alarm. But this one: “What question would you like people to ask you?” has a catch. It slows me down a bit because it makes me think of who is asking the question. Is it a millennial? A boomer? A venture capitalist? A potential customer? Or is it someone who simply asked the question and doesn’t really have time to listen to the answer? We live...

From Gender to Traits: This 1-Minute Process Unlocks Personal Power

Can a GROUP learn a skill together, in 1-Minute. YES. As the inventor of the Gender Equality Tool, I have some insights about how transfer the SKILL of Inclusion to a workforce to create diversity in 1-MINUTE. How is this possible? Recently, I was invited to talk to a group of lawyers in Florida about this instant transfer of knowledge process. I gave a brief description of what happens when the focus shifts from gender and labels to traits and trait balancing. I described how a dynamic synergy can be created by a pairing of these traits. I also gave a brief overview of the 12 fields of science that were used in creating the tool. Then I asked for a volunteer from the audience to experience it in 1-MINUTE while everyone else WATCHED. The tool was displayed on a screen along with his dynamic interaction with it. A group discussion followed. Afterwards he wrote to say: “I think it has tremendous societal and intra company value.” Another responded: “I would recommend it 100% in order to put an end to office conflict.” IMAGINE a workplace where everyone wins! #Gender #Leadership #Training #Inclusion Alexia Parks, inventor of the Gender Equality Tool and G.E.T. Smarter Together 1-Minute Learning Series is Founder 10TRAITS.org  She is also an award-winning entrepreneur and UN Mentor to the Goldman Sachs/Fortune #1 Award Winner “Most Powerful Women in the World” (2014), A best selling author and speaker, Alexia is a recognized global expert on gender equality and leadership. She has appeared as an expert on national, international TV news, in TIME magazine, and formerly wrote for the national desk of...

Lessons from Parkland: How Shall We Live?

What are the lessons we as a nation are learning from Parkland? We are learning to listen to a new generation of young leaders – driven by violent circumstances – stand up and speak out for those who lack a voice: the young, the vulnerable, and the victims. What these young leaders are desperately seeking is empathetic, compassionate leaders who are strong enough to put an arm around someone who is suffering, not arm them with a weapon. In this search, they themselves are becoming the leaders they seek to find. What we are witnessing is the RISE of a new generation of empathetic, compassionate young leaders who speak to the HEART of what makes us human, what makes us care about each other and what gives us hope. “We will outlive you,” Parkland surviver David Hogg reminded members of the Florida State Legislature. In the face of pain, suffering, and rage, these students are asking lawmakers to reduce children’s RISK of death by an AK-15 shooter. Their raw courage fills us with hope for the future. It inspires us to ask ourselves: How shall we live? Free of Fear? Mindfully? In community, with empathy, care and compassion for ALL life on Earth? Led by children, we are the generation that is emerging from the cocoon of a dark fear into the light. We are learning to fly FREE of fear. What unites us is a common believe that we can also LIVE free of fear. We believe in human kindness and random acts of kindness. We see that our compassion for others acts like gravity to draw us together....